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Do The Difficult

In empowerment on February 1, 2010 at 02:20

Children can be taught to "do the difficult". Telling on bullies or abusers is an act of courage & strength

Sometimes the road to sanity is the steepest road, the things we most do, the most difficult: Putting our own fears aside so we can teach our children how to deal successfully with theirs. Or finally gathering our strength, like the foster mother in the story below,  to report something to the authorities knowing that we will have to take responsibility for what we have done… and have not done for no other reason than because it is the right thing to do.

My silence on this blog until now reflects more than a month of preparing  for another year of heavy yet vital  responsibilities as the Executive Director of El HaLev, a 24-hour period of sudden clarity, and the results of that clarity .

I resigned as the Executive Director of El HaLev.

I do not yet know where the path ahead will lead me. I know that my work as a martial artist and self-defense instructor is far from over. It is simply taking a new road.

But knowing that doesn’t still my sadness at leaving my friends & colleagues- the staff of El HaLev. I have been Executive Director for only one year but I have been part of El HaLev from its conception. Clearing out my office and walking out othat door , was like stepping off a cliff into the mist.  Change may be inevitable but it is rarely easy.

I am trying not to lose the momentum I have gained by being strong enough to “do the difficult”, not to take the easy road of settling back into old patterns and familiar ways. In fact, just last night I signed up for a Mindfulness Meditation Retreat — Mid- February, 6 days: no social conversation, no reading, writing or music, just time and opportunity to search for and reclaim my Center. A chance to turn down the noise of “doing” and focus on “being” and “becoming”.

I am excited, a little  scared. .. and very proud of myself for having the courage to “do the difficult”, which, in this case, is doing… nothing, having the faith to let the ground lie fallow for a while, knowing that the seeds will sprout in their own time.


Ha’aretz

Last Update: Jan. 25, 2010

Two men were arrested last week on suspicion of raping and sexually abusing a 12-year-old boy at a care home in Bnei Brak, police sources said Monday.

One of the men detained is the boy’s foster father. Police were alerted when his wife approached them with a statement alleging that her husband had carried out multiple abuses.

The woman filed the complaint last week against her husband, a man in his fifties whom she is in the process of divorcing. During the course of investigations it emerged that a second, younger man in his thirties, a teacher at the boy’s boarding school, had also sexually abused the boy.


Police said the teacher had admitted to the charges against him. The boy’s adoptive father, meanwhile, had absconded on the day his wife filed her complaint but was arrested late on Sunday night.

“This is one of the most difficult incidents we have dealt with in the last few years,” said Shai Gaz, who heads the investigative department of the Rosh Haayin police force, which is handling the case.

“We are handling the case with extreme sensitivity. The boy has now been transferred to the care of a family that has been screened by the authorities.”

The boy was fostered two years ago after his biological mother was jailed for repeatedly raping him. He was initially sent to live with his father, who committed him to state care when he remarried.

Soon after, the 12-year-old was fostered and began spending weekends at his adoptive parents’ home.

His foster mother was also questioned by police, who suspected she had known of the abuses for some time before reporting them.

Last update – 14:43 25/01/2010
Two men arrested for ‘raping and abusing’ 12-year-old boy
By Yaniv Kubovich and Haaretz Service
Tags: Israel news, Israel crime
Foster mother reported attacks by husband; teacher also suspected of sexual abuse.
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Two men were arrested last week on suspicion of raping and sexually abusing a 12-year-old boy at a care home in Bnei Brak, police sources said Monday.

One of the men detained is the boy’s foster father. Police were alerted when his wife approached them with a statement alleging that her husband had carried out multiple abuses.

The woman filed the complaint last week against her husband, a man in his fifties whom she is in the process of divorcing. During the course of investigations it emerged that a second, younger man in his thirties, a teacher at the boy’s boarding school, had also sexually abused the boy.

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Police said the teacher had admitted to the charges against him. The boy’s adoptive father, meanwhile, had absconded on the day his wife filed her complaint but was arrested late on Sunday night.

“This is one of the most difficult incidents we have dealt with in the last few years,” said Shai Gaz, who heads the investigative department of the Rosh Haayin police force, which is handling the case.

“We are handling the case with extreme sensitivity. The boy has now been transferred to the care of a family that has been screened by the authorities.”

The boy was fostered two years ago after his biological mother was jailed for repeatedly raping him. He was initially sent to live with his father, who committed him to state care when he remarried.

Soon after, the 12-year-old was fostered and began spending weekends at his adoptive parents’ home.

His foster mother was also questioned by police, who suspected she had known of the abuses for some time before reporting them.

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